Dr. Lori Beth Bisbey Breaks Down the Reality of Non-Monogamy in New BBC Feature

Dr. Lori Beth Bisbey appears in a new BBC article, “Having Multiple Partners Isn’t All About Sex – It’s Honesty, Logistics and a Good Calendar,” offering a grounded, clinical perspective on consensual non-monogamy and the misconceptions that still surround it.

The feature explores how non-monogamous relationships actually function in practice, moving past the stereotypes that often reduce them to purely sexual arrangements.

Defining Consensual Non-Monogamy Clearly

In the article, Bisbey explains consensual non-monogamy in direct, accessible terms:

“Consensual non-monogamy is when people in a romantic relationship agree that they will not be exclusive partners with each other, and that in some form, they are able to have other partners.”

She also points out that the conversation is often framed too narrowly around sex.

“Now, often when people give this definition, they talk about sexual partners. That’s not always the case, there are people who have very deep emotional relationships that don’t include sex that they would still include under this rubric.”

The distinction matters because it reframes non-monogamy as relationship structure rather than simple sexual behavior.

Challenging Common Assumptions

One of the article’s strongest moments comes when Bisbey pushes back against the idea that polyamorous relationships are inherently unstable or short-lived.

“[That] is utter rubbish. I’ve been in a non-monogamous relationship for 17 years with my now-husband and 10 years with my other partner.”

Her comments shift the conversation away from fantasy or spectacle and toward long-term relationship management built around communication and trust.

Not a Shortcut Around Relationship Problems

Bisbey also makes clear that non-monogamy is not a fix for insecurity or struggling relationships.

“It’s also not a good thing to go along with because your partner wants it. If you are insecure this will make you more insecure.”

She adds:

“It is not a good solution to problems.”

That perspective reinforces one of the article’s larger points — successful non-monogamy depends less on sexual openness and more on:

• Communication
• Honesty
• Emotional stability
• Intentional boundaries
• Time and logistical management

Why This Conversation Matters

The BBC feature reflects a broader cultural shift where conversations around:

• Polyamory
• Open relationships
• Emotional intimacy
• Alternative relationship structures

are becoming more public and less sensationalized.

Bisbey’s contribution stands out because it approaches the subject clinically rather than ideologically, focusing on what actually makes these relationships work or fail.

Where to Read

Read the full article, “Having Multiple Partners Isn’t All About Sex – It’s Honesty, Logistics and a Good Calendar,” by Rowenna Hoskin at:

• BBC.com

Learn More About Dr. Lori Beth Bisbey

• DrLoriBethbisbey.com
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